Fear Management - Managing Fear to Trigger Self Evolution

Many times we cancel things when we want to do them because there is fear in us, False Emotions Appearing Real (Fear) is a false emotion that seem real. It is false because it has not happened yet we feel it so real. For example when we need to do medical check up we may think about someone else who has the same condition as us and think perhaps we will get the same dieases then we get stress eventhough we have not seen the doctor yet.

I have a friend who is so afraid of a frog, even he can lose consciousness if he touches it accidentally. Once he said, but my fear of frogs is not a problem because I only afraid of if and what is the importance of a frog in life. I think the important thing is not the object of our fear but the fear itself. Can we overcome that fear? Because fear is a form of emotion despite the object of it, and we should overcome that emotion.

I remember a movie titled Anger Management, starring Jack Nicholson, Adam Sandler and Marisa Tomei. Dave has a psychiatric disorder that he is afraid of showing his love to his girlfriend in public area. Then with the help of an expert anger Therapy named DR Buddy, he was brought back to remember all his childhood memory. And the psychiatric found Dave's problems. His fear came from trauma when he was a kid that made him angry but he kept his anger. He undertook a series of therapy program to overcome his fear by overcoming his anger, let go of such useless emotion from his soul.

In a book titled Fear Management by Anand Krishna explained several fear that are available in human being so that we can overcome it in order to trigger our evolution. In the book contained 158 pages, published by PT. Gramedia Pustaka Utama Mr. Anand Krishna invites us to manage the fear we have, we cannot possibly eliminate the fear since fear itself is a source of energy that can be utilized to enhance the spiritual evolution in this life. So, please take a moment to go through this useful book.

Keep empowering ourselves!!

Source:

http://edukasi.kompasiana.com/2010/12/27/fear-management-mengelola-ketakutan-memicu-evolusi-diri/


Reference:

Fear Management – Anand Krishna – PT. Gramedia Pustaka Utama (http://booksindonesia.com)

To Myself (part 2)

Don’t you remember a wonderful song when you were in sunter.

O yeah…..

Along the way home, I thought about your writing you sent me yesterday evening. A long the way home, while I was walking down the street. Vehicles were on the other side of me yet I kept on walking for I was already near to my home.

Wonderful song, Bapak Anand Krishna sang that song when we had open house in sunter couple years ago. Now I am trying to sing it again;

Love Love Love
Love is God…..
Live live live
Live in Love
Your master is your heart
Your heart is temple of God
God is in you,
within you,
above you,
around you and
behind you
expand your heart to encompass all
expand your heart to encompass all

That maybe the answer of your question about God. Question that confused you the most. Take a closer look to its meaning and you will be sure enough that is the answer of yours. Well….

I like that song at the very first time I listened to it. A song I’ve never heard of. Thank You Bapak…

The way You answer my question is beautiful and then I sing that song again…..



Rempoa – South Jakarta ( December 17 1010 )

Sleepy

It was after having lunch. Soon after that perhaps 10 minutes or so, I get sleepy. Well, it could be everyone’s usual problem in our daily life. I am sleepy now.

Yet……

Let me tell you something about this also.

Last week when I got cough and I must take medicines, this problem also in my eyes. Really in my two eyes. I was sleepy after taking those medicine which was antibiotics and medicine to handle soar throat and allergic. That’s why I am kind of lazy to take any kind of medicine whether it is from a doctor or usual medicine you can find in the drug store around. I cannot stand on the side effect of them. Sleepy.

Although it is good for our body to take a rest for a while but for I am in an office hour, so I could not sleep. I kept my eyes open or I go to the bathroom and put a little water in my two eyes in order to handle that problem. Or you can also rub your eyes with wet towel to fresh them.

Now, that I face the same problem again. I am sleepy. I know what to do then………….



Rempoa – South Jakarta ( December 20, 2010)

To myself

Well, well, well…

It has been a long time for me not to write to you. How are you now? Are you still in your best condition? I do hope so since I’ve been always prayed for your health in your soul and body. How is that? Am I not your very best friend? Ha ha ha

So, things are alright with me. I am just fine. I just want to let you know about me here which is close to you. Yes, we are so close, aren’t we? I need to tell you that I try to be grateful to what you have done to me all the time. I say many thank to you.

Perhaps you do not expect this writing but it is ok, I understand that. Well, I say thank you for thousand times.

Small things and big things, I try to take it and fell happy about them. Just like the Saint say that it is good to be grateful in many ways. Do not take things seriously, although I often am covered with sadness, anger and hatred but I try to change anyway.

I thank Him for giving me the opportunity to live another day so I can undertake improvement in me my self. I must remember Him always for He is The One and Only. Even sometime I get confused about Him. some say we are God for we ourselves create our own destiny whether we succeed or fail. But He is The Almighty, and how is it? Still get confused about it.

One thing for sure that all I can do is thank Him for everything and be grateful about it.

Rempoa – South Jakarta (16 December 2010)

prosperity for all

1. Have you seen him who denies the Recompense? 2. That is who he repulses the orphan. 3. and urges not the feeding of the poor 4. So woe unto those performers of Salat 5. Who delay their Salat from their stated fixed times 6. Those who do good deeds only to be seen 7. And refuse Al-Ma'un (QS Almaun [107]: 1-7)

Nowadays, those Verses have been interpreted in a shallow meaning, feeding the orphans and the poor is defined as giving them donation, or charity. Why should not we think that feeding the orphans and the poor is to provide welfare, to provide jobs so that they can meet their needs, providing a holistic education so they can be responsible to their own lives.

We simplify the meaning of the verse because if we follow the true meaning it becomes very hard for us, then we compromise, simplify the problem and take a shortcut by requiring donations, or charity. Donations, or charities lead us to a new problem that is laziness, even the goverment of DKI is confused by the number of beggars in Jakarta, do not blame them, they become like that because we are the one who made them because we merelly give charity to them. we should give them jobs so they can earn their own living instead of giving them charity.

If we take a closer look at those verses, then we could find the meaning of those verses which is to create prosperity for all. we are required to build a system that can lead all of us to prosperity. Poverty can not be solved with charity, stupidity can not be solved by the doctrine. We must work all together to create prosperity for all. Bung Hatta had come with his thoughts on Cooperation, an economic concept that is suitable for the Indonesian people, it is time for us to find out more about this brilliant concept. This is not all about our government's work, stop blaming the government, this is a job for us all. Stop debating something that is not useful, It is time to get together and cooperate with each other.

Take off our religious attributes, political party attributes and all attributes of particular interests. This time we must stand for the sake of our nations, one goal only that we are focus on which is the prosperity for all. Or else we will be the disbelievers of His command.

By: Su Rahman

Source :
http://filsafat.kompasiana.com/2010/11/18/kesejahteraan-bersama/

Do not talk about heaven (but do create it here and now)

It is said according to a gossip from the sky that is received by the su Darman about uncle Mullah’s death when he was under a banyan tree. Uncle Mullah eventually went to heaven, because he made a lot of people laugh and happy so he was given a special place in heaven, one day he was asked to go around his new neighborhood there by an angel.

At the intersection, uncle Mullah saw people being tortured, whipped and burned on fire. After being tortured they died but soon lived again and so on. It was like that over and over again. Uncle Mullah could not stand himself then he asked the angel. “O Angel, what place is it? and why are they being tortured? “

“O.. we call it hell, A place for people who like stealing, adultery, corruption and all other sinful acts during their life . ” replied the angel.

O.. …

Then he was asked to walk again to see another place of torture until they reached the next intersection. Uncle Mullah saw Amrozi and friends were in a nice place, full of pleasure and the scenery was beautiful. There they were accompanied by many beautiful naked women, beautiful music, and many delicious food. Then with a bit surprised Uncle Mullah questioned.

“O… angel what place is it?”

“O… It’s Amrozi’s heaven!” Replied the angel. Then they walked again. Ten minutes later there was terifying sound, BOOOMMMMMM, uncle Mullah surprised but still silent, they walk again. About ten minutes later there was another BOOOOOMMMMMM. Unable to bear with his curiosity he then asked the angel, “what sound is that, O angel?”

“O.. It was a bomb, every ten minutes we blow Amrozi’s heaven..!!!”

As told by Su Darman to Su Rahman.

Reflection:


Heaven … heaven is a place that becomes the ultimate goal of men, I began to question perhaps we actually do not believe in heaven, since according to the lecture I often hear that the requirement to go to heaven is that we must be good, often do good deeds, but in fact now?. Levels of corruption is very high and that indicates that we are not good. Then what kind of heaven we want to achieve?

Although we often do worship, but if our attitude is not good, such as do corruption, hate others who has different belief as ours, or gossipping others and other bad deeds so I think we are still very far from heaven.

Heaven and Hell are one’s mental condition, and therefore we often hear a saying: like living in hell, because covered by anger, envy, jealousy, resentment, sadness and much negatif emotions that burden our soul. The condition of our souls, now in this world will determine our acquisitions in the hereafter, if we are still full of bad emotions such as anger, hatred, grief, then what kind of heaven will we obtain?

Therefore some say that the failure to find heaven right now, while still living in this very world, it also failure to find a paradise in the hereafter later. If we want to find heaven in the hereafter later then we have to start from now, in this world. We have to bring heaven to our lives ourselves, by beginning to empower ourselves. Begin to improve ourselves so that we can also improve the surroundings. Thus we make this world a more beautiful place to live in, and then we talk about heaven in the hereafter.

No!, Do not talk about heaven first, if we are still unable to maintain our nature. Do not talk about heaven first if we still can not be responsible for ourselves, if we are corrupt, use our authority for our own sake. Do not talk about heaven if we still can not take care of ourselves, because is God willing to give heaven to those who still does corruption, which is still bad, full of hypocrisy?

Discover and create heaven here and now in this world then we will get the same thing there one day in the hereafter.


Source: http://filsafat.kompasiana.com/2010/11/21/jangan-berbicara-tentang-surga-dulu/

A Web Programmer and Genie

Su Darman is a web programmer who is skillfull enough and creative so he can get money from his skill, but what su Darman enjoys most about it is that he can set his own bedtime. And of course he can take vacation any time he wants. such as that Friday night, he decided to spend his time on the beach and he went to Pelabuhan Ratu in Sukabumi.

When he got there, he wished he could meet Nyi Roro Kidul - ruler of the southern ocean. He wanted to ask her some mantras for his success in making a great program such as FaceBook.While walking and daydreaming, suddenly his feet hit something. He took a closer look at is, it is an ancient lamp, he was in amazed. Then spontaneously he rubbed that ancient lamp…….


"wow…., my heart almost get stop”

In front of him stood a high and large figure in laughing, “I am the oldest genie and have an extraordinary supernatural powers, I will make one request of yours come true”, he said just like an ads on TV.

Su Darman thought, and then came a cross a thought in his mind, then he pulled out a map of the Mediterranean from his bag and said, “I wish there is peace among the people in the Middle East region.”Jin replied, “Well, I do not know. These people are already at war since the beginning of time. I can do everything, but it’s still beyond my ability. “Su Darman said, “Okay if so, I am a web programmer and I would like a web made by me are used by many people. I want everyone happy with my website, so they want to come back to visit”

The genie frowned and then said, ‘Well, could you allow me to see the map again? “

As told by Su Darman to Su rahman.

Reflections:

Even the oldest and the most powerful genie can not make everyone happy, but all we can do is do as our best, likes and dislikes is part of the world that can not be avoided, therefore it is impossible to make everyone likes the result our work. If we are busy thinking about it, we become unable to work, we can do many things, we waste energy on something useless.

Maybe it would be better if Mr. be ye the one who met that genie instead of Su Darman.But never mind, hopefully Mr. be ye is aware that it is not possibly to please everyone, which Mr. Beye had to do is do the best with all his heart and sincerity and of course the results will be good.

Genie’s choice was very appropriate because it is not possible to satisfy everyone, but to reconcile betwen people in hostile is still possible. All we need is love.So many stories ever since about two families are in hostile, then one day two young members of that two families fall in love, and everything become so much better, hatred among them are gone. Because according to the Beatles’ All You Need Is Love.

“Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.

There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done.

Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung.

Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game

It’s easy.

There’s nothing you can make that can’t be made.

No one you can save that can’t be saved.

Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you

in time - It’s easy.

All you need is love, all you need is love,

All you need is love, love, love is all you need.

Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.

All you need is love, all you need is love,

All you need is love, love, love is all you need.”

Therefore it is the work of our heart, now we can do is pray for their hearts that are hard as stone to become more open, because of love. Prayer from the sincere heart will be accepted by the universe, therefore all we need to do is continue to sincere our hearts so we can continue to send prayer “O Allah, O… Lord grow Love in our hearts…….

Peace …. Peace in our heart ….. Peace on Earth … … .. Amen…”

( This is a translation of a writing wrote by Su Rahman : http://filsafat.kompasiana.com/2010/11/22/web-programmer-dan-jin-yang-tidak-dapat-memuaskan-semua-orang/ )

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crowd in the middle of the night

Hearing voices which I believed was a group of people far away, made me afraid. For some reason, I thought that's really unpleasant. Oh.. I was scared though I only heard the voices of people who were fighting in the middle of the night.


I was far indeed from them. But the fear was so close. A sense that I ddi not want. I was terrified. Ah really beyond expectations. I still keep it. I did not like to think of this. In my fear I called Your name. I begged for your protection. I put the palms of my hands together and while sitting cross-legged I pleaded.

eventually they went away. Ah ... .. O Sai ... thanks ...

again,

I put together the palms of my hands and I was very grateful to you ...

Thank you, O Sai ......

Be confident with your own template creation

Well, template is one of the biggest factor for website or blog that could make visitor browse for more. Template is the first thing that visitor appreciate at. Whether you like it or not, you need templates or a template for your website or blog. No matter what.

The good news is that you can find and use templates easily even though there are many commercial templates where you need to buy when you want to use them. But free templates are also so many and all you need to do is search them in search engine such as Google or Yahoo. Easy to find and easy to use. Templates for free various from the needs for blog, Joomla,Wordpress, Drupal, etc.

But now you can also create your own template as easy as when using the free ones. By using artisteer software, you can do it. You can create as you like you template to be. From the background, colour, font style and also modifying its header.

My two best friends have already tried to do their own creativity. Click here and here to find it more

Why wait? Lets create your own template as you like and be confident.

Going to Gramedia Matraman

Since Sunday, November 7, 2010 there was a book review talkshow "A New Christ" written by Wallace D. Wattles with free translation, re-editing and notes by Mr. Anand Krishna held at Gramedia Matraman in East Jakarta,this, so since I have never been to the place, the day before - Saturday afternoon - i went out to look for where Matraman Gramedia is located.

Searching for information via Google but i can not find what public transportation toward the location, maybe because the keywords was wrong, so i did not get the answer. so, i asked my brother. He told me how to get there, from Lebak Bulus bus terminal take Patas AC 16 Lebak Bulus - Rawamangun and then get off at the intersection pramuka. From there, take public transportation M 01 and get off right in front of Gramedia. then, go through overpass available.

Well, there's nothing wrong while crossing expand your view of the sky area which is on the right and left. Well .... you will not regret going over the bridge. We can be satisfied with a good view at the sky ...... It's beautiful ...

And finally we are at Gramedia Matraman which is the largest bookstore in Southeast Asia. It's great you know .... Prove it yourself.

In addition to using Patas AC P 16, you could also take another alternative. especially those who are not patient enough waiting P 16 coming into the terminal and also stand by approximately half an hour looking for passengers. Well, you can use Kopaja P 20 Lebak - Senen. Get off at Senen bus terminal , then take Patas Ac Ciputat - Senen. Get off at pramuka intersection. Continue to take public transportation M 01, get off in front of Gramedia. Or from Blok M, but I just do not know what number the bus is.

To return home, take public transportation from Gramedia M 01 and get off at nearby intersection. From there, you are able to go to Blok M first and then take metro to Lebak bulus or use Patas Ac Ciputat - Senen. Get off at Lebak Bulus bus terminal.

On the day, talk show run smoothly and exciting, moderated by Mr. Dian Martin from Anand Ashram community with speaker Mrs. Mindawati Perangin angin Ph.D. (Executive Director, Research Center for Religion and Education), Mr Abdul Rohim Ghazali who was a young Muhammadiyah and Mr. Anand Krishna.

The event was also enlivened by the appearance of the band Torch Bearer who invited all the participants sang songs with the full spirit of peace, unity and love of the nation.

As for a glimpse of the talk show, please direct to this place

If you want see photos-of the event, please click here

And if you're still curious as well, please buy this book at Gramedia Matraman or via this link

thank You Bapak for everything…

Writing tips from Su Rahman

After hundreds of articles and poems he wrote, Su Rahman eventually wrote about tips and tricks in writing that he had been involved with for a long time. perhaps in the late 1990s, some of his writings has been published in some mass media in Jakarta. As I recall the writing was very simple and possibly that's what caused the mass media is willing to publish it. Writing about making money by being as sparring partner for boxers who want to compete in a championship with illustrative images of people in black and blue. It was funny indeed, but yet his writings were published in a media. And several short stories that first time I saw hung on his bedroom wall. But now is not there anymore.


In the first part, he explains that we should be honest and should not think about the language whether it is in accordance with standard language or not, which is important is writing about what is in our minds. Writing for the purpose of sharing. No matter whether it will be appreciated or not. The next thing also mentioned that we can publish our writings easily and free. Now there has been many media that can be a place for the writings of all of us.

For more details about the first part, please click here

As for the second part, he tried to share about finding and exploring ideas for our writing. According to him, in fact the ideas or the idea to write are so many and they are everywhere (just like dust ), for example ranging from daily events or simple things that often go unnoticed. Writing can also based on a report of a specific moment such as flood that struck an area. Nor can the hobby or habit that is difficult once removed. With these ideas, we can begin writing in order to create a writing which again need not worry about people's opinions.

Going directly to the passage? please click here ....


Now, comes the last part of the third part in which he explained that writing is a means to empower ourselves, we really can deliver what is our thinking. Write because it was part of expressing ourselves, writing honestly and from the heart without thinking too much on what other people's opinions. in writing, he was finally able to understand about himself. great, isn't it?

In this final section he also describes that by writing we can also inspire others like he did and through writings someone (the author) will be widely known without limit of time and distance even though the author died.

Click here to read the third part.

Hopefully useful ......


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My family's cat

My family actually do not like cats very much, but we often have cats or at least a cat. We also have several fishes in an aquarium. The cat usually female cat and it gave birth, so we had several cats.
But lately my family only had a young yellow cat. It did not want to go out, it was a lazy cat – we always said that especially my mom. Even he did not go along with other cats around my neighbourhood. We were sometimes upset about its behavior. He spent most time at home, in our kitchen. He was not so naughty as a cat. Even though we do not love him but we take care of him quite well. But at night we kept him out side of our house.


Soon my little sister found out why he did not want to go out. There is a big yellow cat always chases after him. My cat was afraid of that big cat. Several times I got to know that he was beaten up by that cat. Oh poor you, my cat.
He was so afraid and he did not fight the cat back. Once he was bleeding cause of the cat’s claw.
Three days ago, our bathroom smelt bad. There was a carcass around. We ignored it then the smells become very bad finally we tried to find it.
It was in our bathroom. My brother saw a cat’s leg under the cupboard. There is a cupboard in our bathroom. Perhaps he was chased after his enemy then he run and hid there but he was unlucky. He was strangulated the cupboard. He died.
We buried him in our front yard.
Bye my cat……..
Oh poor you….

Hanuman

Well, first time I knew Hanuman all I that he was a monkey nothing special about it. If I’m not mistaken he was in Mahabharata and Ramayana story. He was in the story.


Just like other monkeys I think he was.
But, then Pak Anand Krishna made a book about him. In his book, he wrote about Hanuman as a spiritual CEO. And this morning, in D Fm radio, Pak Anand and mba Maya Muchtar had a talk show about the book. The book is “Hanuman Factor”. Pak Krishna told us that we should learn from him.
Hanuman was a good listener, he also learnt by doing and watching. He was also a loyal character.
Hanuman was not just a monkey, he was a representative of noble character.